I love my husband. No, this isn’t going to be one of those cheesy, gushy posts about how wonderful he is. In fact those kinds of tributes make my heart hurt. My husband’s not perfect. I’m not perfect. Our marriage has never been perfect. If yours is, then I envy you that. We have had our share of trials: four unplanned pregnancies that resulted in our four amazing children, a few unexpected job changes (his), one life threatening medical emergency (mine), plus a bunch of other things sprinkled in to challenge two very stubborn people. I’ve been thinking a lot about all of this lately and I’m so grateful that we have stuck it out. To show him my undying devotion, every year I usually host a fabulous birthday party in his honor and invite some of his highschool buddies and their wives. The Freudian explanation (or Dr. Phil, you pick) is that my mom always threw us kids the most incredible birthday parties as a way to show us that she loved us. The only problem is that my husband doesn’t see it as love—he sees it as work, since he always has to help me. He likes simple parties with good food and friends. Poor guy, he’s married to me–simple isn’t an option. But this year I was determined to make the party as stress free and I could and to top it all off, it was going to be, in a very subtle way, all about him. I came up with what I thought was a no-fail, for sure party theme, The Trophy Husband.

trophy husband topper

 Rule #1: Don’t show your husband the cake topper before the actual party or he’ll veto it. And then you’ll have to use other tactics to sneak it onto the cake.  You can get this awesome cake topper at Hey Yo Yo on etsy.


  1. You know… you totally just summed it all up for me in this post. My husband doesn’t understand why I do what I do. He’s got a December birthday so his family never did anything for him. I’ve always felt like he deserves something! Our first year in Dallas we went to a Mav’s game, last year I had an entire evening event planned with a tree lighting and it all fell through when bad weather rolled in. But I do it all because I love him. Thank you for vocalizing that too! I was feeling like I was alone in this aspect of marriage! Our kids will recieve the same treatment too! Because I love them!

    Rachel    Thursday, January 21, 2010
  2. This is hilarious! Ironically, my husband is also named Barry, and you and I share the same sentiment about parties, and so do our Barry’s.

    I threw him a secret agent surprise party on his half birthday one year (his b-day is too close to Christmas). I think it took him a full 5 mins., to understand what was going on! Not sure he could handle the trophy husband theme, but it would be so funny!

    Kendra    Thursday, February 4, 2010
  3. I totally love this! I think I have to do this for my husband this year…he’ll be turning 40. Thanks for such a great idea.

    jessica    Sunday, February 27, 2011

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